Woman Says Roommate Has ‘No Boundaries’ And Uses Her Things

A woman is not hitting it off with her new roommate.

The 23-year-old woman explained on Reddit’s “Am I the A——?” forum that her 35-year-old roommate, also a woman, has “no boundaries.”

“I’m honestly getting frustrated,” she wrote. “She’s used my things multiple times without asking. The main issue is my space heater.”

She continued, “It’s extremely cold here, and I usually keep it in the living room since my bedroom stays fairly warm. She asked to borrow it once, and I said yes as long as she gave it back when I needed it. No problem.”

However, the roommate now wants to go into the woman’s bedroom whenever she’s not home to grab the space heater.

“Today, while I was at work, she texted me: ‘Hey, you don’t mind if I use your heater while you’re not here.’ Not even a question, just a statement. I didn’t reply,” the woman explained.

Feeling frustrated, she wrote, “She’s a grown woman. If she needs a heater, she can buy her own. This is my first time living away from home and out of state, so maybe I’m not used to stuff like this.”

“My mom says to just avoid problems and let her use it, or just keep it in my room with my door locked,” the original poster continued. “I don’t want this to turn into drama, but I also don’t want to give in when she’s already ignoring boundaries.”

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Wondering if she’s overreacting, the woman asked fellow Redditors, “Am I the a—— for not wanting my new roommate to use my space heater?”

Most of the people responding to her question were on her side.

“You don’t need to have a reason to not have her use your stuff,” one reader replied, while another commented, “This was one of my fears in getting a roommate.”

A third Redditor recommended, “Tell her your boundaries now.”