A man wanted to know if he was in the wrong to refuse to pay for his date’s meal after she informed him that she planned to remain celibate until she got married.

Taking to Reddit’s “AITA” (Am I the A—–) channel, the man explained in a post that he went out on a date with a 42-year-old woman whom he first met on Facebook Dating. He noted that they had chatted “over a couple of days” before taking the step to meet for a meal.

When they met in person, the man said that his date “seemed like a nice and classy woman.” However, he noted some red flags, saying, “The way she talked about dating and the type of man she was looking for was a bit off-putting”

“She had a list of attributes she was looking for in a man that just didn’t seem realistic given what she was bringing to the table. She claimed to be celibate for the last 3 years and that she was waiting until she was married again to have sex,” he wrote, having previously mentioned that she had “2 adult children and 2 failed marriages.”

Despite his reservations, he sat through the rest of the meal, knowing that he didn’t want to meet again in the future. When it was time to pay, he committed what some believe to be the ultimate dating faux pas.

“When the check came I asked for separate checks and she kind of scoffed and rolled her eyes. She asked ‘aren’t you the one who asked me out’ and I said ‘I am,’ ” he recalled, saying that she “mean mugged” him in response.

When their waiter returned, she asked for confirmation that he really wasn’t about to pay, saying, “Are you really not about to pay for (dinner)?’ ”

“I told her it was nice meeting her and walked away,” he said, adding that he told her she needed to pay her portion of the bill.

Concluding, he wrote, “If I wanted to see her again I would have paid for her food and drinks but since I had zero interest in doing so… I didn’t.”

Many Redditors rushed to tell the man that he was in the wrong for his approach to the date. A majority of respondents focused on the mention that his date was celibate. One incensed person wrote that he was treating paying for a date like a “down-payment on vagina access.”

“YTA (you’re the a—–) for making it transactional. You aren’t entitled to a woman’s body no matter how many people she’s slept with before. That’s just gross,” another person opined.

In response, someone wrote, “Right? This whole ‘she already has kids, she can’t decide to go celibate now’ was so gross. YTA OP (original poster), next time tell your future date up front you’ll only pay if she’ll sleep with you and see how many dates you’ll get.”

“Wow. How generous of you to stay to finish dinner. Can’t stand to be around women that won’t sleep with you? Unless there’s food involved? Do you even like women, beyond sex?” yet another person asked.

Others took issue with the way he described what the woman was “brining to the table,” with one Redditor replying, “What do you bring to the table? Anything useful besides paying for one dinner?”

“i see the words ‘given what she was bringing to the table…‘ and I know EXACTLY the kind of guy you are,” someone else wrote.

One person had a more measured response and still explained how they felt the man made a poor decision.

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“Dates are for deciding if you want to see someone again or not, and deciding you weren’t into her at that point is fine,” they wrote. “But refusing to pay on that basis when you asked her out and had previously intended to pay is tacky and classless. I mean fair enough if she’d started goose stepping around the restaurant snapping Sieg Heils you’d be within your rights to dip, but all she did was say she didn’t want sex right away and has some standards that you don’t meet/think were reasonable.”

While many disagreed with him, some posters chimed in with more advice about how to proceed in the future.

“And this is why you have a coffee date during the day at a duration of 1, max 2 hours,” one person advised, with another replying, “This should be pinned at the top. Always keep the first date short so you can bail quickly if necessary. I never commit to a full meal on the first date.”

Others agreed, with one person writing, “Before I was married when I went of first dates they were always low commitment, low cost (or free) activities that did not need to take a lot of time if the vibes were off and where nobody felt pressured to pay for the other person.”

“Coffee was definitely the go to. Not just for me, for basically everyone I knew,” yet another person added.